Chuck telling Blair how great a mother she will be and that she never gives up on the people she loves only reminds me fondly of 3x12 at the hospital. Blair telling Chuck that she sees a great man in him and that he carries people, he carries her. I love when Blair and Chuck say things like these to each other. They’re building each other up. They’re acknowledging good and laudatory things in each other. Unlike what people think CB is all darkness, all grave all the time. No there’s a lot of lightness too. there’s more than a chase of a dark and secret thrill that brings CB together, they also look for light and virtuous things like Blair being a competent mother and Chuck being a noble person and the best thing about it all is that Blair recognizes that in Chuck before he can see it in himself and it’s her approbation that leads him to believe so for himself and vice-versa for Blair. I think it means the world to her that Chuck said she’d be an amazing mother. He knows her very well, all the parts of her, light and dark and in between. It’s true when they say they know each other better than they know their own selves
It’s so true, I think that’s how they just clicked in the beginning. They saw the potential in each other before they became fully aware of just how deep it would run.
I mean it’s not the first time i’m seeing this argument but it’s getting like really old, in my opinion and i just couldn’t help but say something here. Certain of you act like Dan and Blair are the only people to have ever had intellectual conversations. As if before Dan and Blair such a thing as ‘intellectual conversation’ did not exist. As if Chuck and Blair never had any of it on their own. If i recall, there’s nothing about Dan and Blair’s intellectual supremacy that Dan and Vanessa did not have and possibly on an even deeper level. The only thing they lacked really was the hardcore banter and the juxtaposition of social classes (which he already had with Serena). And i think that’s mainly the reason why some people may found Dan and Blair more enjoyable given that there was of course a supply friction in their dynamic caused by these two elements. However both those elements were part of Serena and Vanessa combined, so there was really no novelty to Dan and Blair except maybe for the banter. And that aspect was purely character driven and it was something that was maintained in their friendship. When their friendship turned romantic, they kind of lost the only novelty they had. So Dan and Blair never even worked and it was back to being a hybrid of Danessa and Derena which was made worse by Blair being psychologically and emotionally incapacitated.
Getting on with the topic at hand, I find it quite funny how certain people make it sound as if Dan and Blair had this unprecedented intellectual connection and thrt they always had the most amazing communication know to mankind and that they understand each other thoroughly with words or without. May i remind that in the finale they broke up because Blair blindsided Dan completely. Well when the words “I thought she changed” were pronounced, it kind of confirmed that their communication was not so tidy and Dan didn’t know Blair as well as he thought he did. So acting like they always had the most fulfilling conversations and intellectual connection that the world had never seen before and that it fully warrants them and suffices them to ‘belong with each other’ or some bull like that is just furthermore insulting your own intelligence. Do you know how many people at NYU have that same intellectual connection with each other? and the fact that Blair couldn’t form that particular connection initially was the reason why she never felt like she belonged at the school. Because in truth, if i know Blair as well as i think i do, Blair is not really an intellectual snob. Blair is a classicist if you can make the distinction. She is very well-read and cultured indeed but she’s not the nerdy, esoteric type. She’s not Nelly Yuki, Dan is. She wants to go to Yale, not Harvard. She likes Jane Austen and Marie Antoinette, Audrey Hepburn movies and impressionist paintings, and she loves fashion, not five hours long German political thrillers with no subtitles and advocacy for community gardens. That’s a Dan and Vanessa thing. She even exemplified it by saying she didn’t want to be like the High Brow Brilliant people at all (where Dan was) because they’re boring doctors curing diseases. She’s a society girl, she wants to be like Gwyneth and Mayor Bloomberg and the Beckhams, High Brow Despicable.
So you guys make it seem like Dan and Blair are on the same wavelength in their intellectual snobbery when Dan is so far more gone than Blair. I mean Blair had aspirations to be princess not to win a Nobel prize in science or humanitarianism or anything. when she was a NYU she was trying to get into La Table Elitaire, not the Tisch writing program. Her favorite author is George Sand not Immanuel Kant. They don’t even seem to agree on the same art exhibits most of the time. I’m sure Blair has the capability to understand abstract things as deeply as Dan does. Blair is a very smart girl, but those are not even her aspirations. Those are not her sensibilities. The salon that she threw was the closest thing she ever did emulating anything like Dan.
But even if they were a hundred percent intellectually compatible and loved absolutely the same things, Does that even make them a perfect match? if people were to base their romantic choices off only the intellectual connection they have with others notwithstanding all the other aspect of romantic compatibility, then i should go ahead and marry all my professors because the factor of ‘mutual love and desire’ would not matter. not at all. Maybe i can make an argument for Dan and Vanessa belonging together as well and your argument would only support it if you’re claiming that because two people love the same books and movies and can have arguments about then, it means they are perfect for each other. okay then.
But my point is about Chuck and how his lack of intellectual elitism is supposed to be some kind of insult against his character. I laugh wholeheartedly if that is your aim because it couldn’t be more ignorant. First off, romantic compatibility isn’t based off intellectual connection alone or even as significantly as the many other aspects. There are many ways to be compatible and one of them is physical attraction, which Chuck and Blair both have towards each other. And then you have the only thing that truly matters, the mutual love and desire of each for the other, which Dan and Blair do not have. So they are already largely incompatible in those terms.
Not only do Chuck and Blair have mutual love and desire for each other, they also have their fair share of intellectual compatibility, which i’m sure you are unwilling to admit. However Chuck and Blair have always been a match in snark and wit, which is why their banter is so exceptional. Dan is not the only one who can use big words. And Chuck and Blair, they are both really good strategists as well. They may not have long superficial talks about literature and cinema but they do have their own meeting of the minds, it just so happens to never be strictly intellectual which is why they are compelled to be more than friends. Their connection is deeper than intellect. They are deeply attracted to each other. They bonded over a mutual love of scheming and burlesque which lends them a touch more of sensuality because of the fetishistic appeal of those vices over their already improper banter. So Chuck and Blair have always been more than big dictionary words and an encyclopedia of names to go off of. They have a literal sensual/physical connection which evolved from yes, an intellectual connection.
contrary to what you may believe, intellectual connections are not about academics. They’re simply about a meeting of the minds which can happen on several different levels and Chuck and Blair made that connection in the kinkiest of places.
But even as far as the academics are concerned, theories or practice. Dan may have read more books than Chuck or watched many more movies, knows more trivia about ‘intellectual stuff’ and he may be a snob about it. But Chuck is not an airhead, i’m sorry to burst your bubbles. Dan is actually the superficial one because Chuck has actual real life experience. Chuck has the actual practical experience. He is world traveled. I’m not even sure Rome wasn’t Dan’s first trip out of the country tbh. Chuck is cultured not because he learned about the things he knows in books but because he’s actually been there, done that. He can make cultural references too, just like Dan can. Chuck is 100 percent more lived than Dan. Dan was a sheltered little boy until Serena walked into his life. His intellectual preemption about things is uncalled for. Chuck has a reputation all over the world based off his standard for fashion, finery..etc. Yes i’m sure he also knows a few things about Matisse and Gauguin. Maybe he read the Fountainhead too at one point, it’s not like he’s incapable of understanding words in a sequence. And before you forget, he did actually get Blair into Columbia. He wrote those essays believe it or not and those are not the easier things to write. And did i mention he conducts business for a multi-billion dollar company and so far he’s outsmarted many people who have tried taking it away. So i’m sure he learned something there in math class after all.
And i’m sure he’s pretty capable of having a cultured intellectual conversation with Blair, even about movies and books and other school stuff if you ask me.
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Very tl;dr haha XD
Michelle’s chair gifs/graphics always makes me flail, but I’ve been fangirling extra over her latest “us” cb parallel.
It’s so gorgeous, because it’s like…looking at CB from far away, and yet seeing all the intricate moments that always bound Chuck and Blair together. I feel sort of overwhelmed - it’s like when you listen to a piece of music that is so beautiful, you can’t fathom it - that’s what CB is like, for me.
From the time when they were babies, having a secret relationship - the buildup to 1.10 - limosex, the Erikson Beamon necklace - to the excruciating pain and pleasure of season 2, where they referred to themselves as “us” before they were even a couple. As Anne (blairhappiness) said, Blair always knew that Chuck loved her (2.13 - calling C a ‘narcissist’ implied that he was holding back his feelings). Chuck always knew that Blair loved him (2.08 - the reason why we can’t say it isn’t because it’s not true). It was the fear of how their relationship would change after those three words, eight letters were said.
What I love about CB is that they went through these hurdles together, for the most part - and even when they weren’t together they still were, if that makes sense. They still were an “us”. Even after Blair had hurt Chuck in 3.06, even after the writers started unravelling CB for the sake of drama. Even after Safran burned CB into ash - 4.02 brought something so heart-wrenchingly beautiful to Chuck and Blair.
And in season 4, CB were still an “us”, even after Blair ran Eva out of town, even after Chuck brought Jenny Humphrey back, even after massive amounts of hatesex —- they became friends again. “For us a million, the world zero”. Even when they decided they couldn’t be a couple/friends. Even after Chuck reached the worst of his self-destructiveness.
I watched 4.22 yesterday and it was so beautiful - the bar mitzvah, Blair clapping and dancing - the girl who said that her hair didn’t sparkle when it caught the light - but she was so beautiful in her dress, and she exuded happiness, from her heart. And HER FACE being lifted up on the chair. I think one of the many things that is so beautiful about CB is how Chuck sees her, like no one else does. To quote Sophia, “he’s in awe of her.” From 1.07 when she danced at Victrola - he saw something in her - a side of Blair - that no one else saw. Blair was so used to being passed over for Serena, so used to Nate taking her for granted (although he loved her very much) - and here she had completely transfixed the ultimate bad boy, the “devil” of the UES. The virgin queen, the girl who was in line to wear the Vanderbilt ring, the girl who hurting and broken inside, despite her ‘frigid facade’ (D) she showed to the world. This girl - captivated - Chuck Bass. “I can’t sleep, I feel so ashamed” - she had him around her little finger. Blair had a certain amount of power - that went largely underestimated by everyone, who assumed that her power lay in her ability to rule as Queen - but really, she had so much more power than that. The power of her beauty, sexual power (she had captivated Nate and Chuck Bass, of all people, with little experience) and of course her “mind-game mastery”….but Chuck never underestimated her power.
Season 5 was mostly painful - in a very bad way - but looking at the ‘us’ quotes, what I found most interesting was that Chuck Bass was saying most of them - he was fighting for CB as hard as Blair fought for them in season 2.
5.10 -pre crash - had some of the most beautiful scenes in the entire season.
Blair was so scared and tired, and her voice was small. Her hair was parted to the side, and looked a little matted. But Chuck heard her, the same way he heard her in 1.07, when no one was listening. Even though her voice was so small. And when Chuck kissed her, something awakened in her - his cheeks flushed red - and I’m certain it was just like true love’s kiss mentioned in 3.04. Just like the night at Victrola, when Blair shed her dress, breaking free of society’s rigid expectations. And I think from that night, they became an “us”. Not just because they were together with sex, but because they gave in to the pull — the pull that took Blair away from Nate, from the future Eleanor had set for her —- and for Chuck, he gave in to loving Blair - not only with fire, but with compassion — as he had never done before. You can see Blair though Chuck’s eyes - someone mentioned that Chuck saw Blair as a precious treasure, the way he held her, her entire tiny body fitting around his hands. In 1.08, he put the necklace on her, and kissed her shoulder, so gently, with remorse for Nate - and I believe that he truly felt her pain. The way he touched her in 5.10 was the same - Blair was his treasure - no matter how she dressed, acted, or treated him, or which phase in her life she was going through. Blair is and has always been, the only girl Chuck ever loved. 5.10 was such a huge development for Chuck. He had always sacrificed his own happiness, (Blair has proven to be his only happiness), because he was afraid that he couldn’t make her happy. “You should be with me” shook my entire world. Because I think, in loving Blair so much, and her baby, he felt love for himself too, for maybe the first time ever - because he loved himself enough to know that he could love Blair as she deserved, and raise her baby. I think that was why that scene caused an earthquake in my heart. Because Chuck Bass, whose father had treated him with resentment, who had grown up thinking that he killed his mother for most of his life, who slept with Jenny because he hated himself so vehemently, who gave the love of his life to another man — this Chuck Bass —- loved himself.
Chuck has grown SO MUCH in season 5, and I hope we’ll be able to witness Blair’s growth too in season 6 - so that Chuck and Blair will be a stronger “us” than ever before.
Lovely essay! Submitted by blairhappiness.